2019 has easily been one of the most transformational years of my life. It’s like I took everything I’ve learned over the years and then 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘥 them to my life. Who woulda thought that would lead to transformation? Ha! It’s one thing to know something and another to live it!
As I entered into this new season of life—motherhood, one of my biggest fears was that I would lose myself and my identity. Instead, quite the opposite happened! With intention, I began a journey that would force me to look deeply into myself, challenge my limiting beliefs, and define who it is I want to be. Don’t get me wrong, there is still plenty of work to be done but as I reflect over the past year, I’m filled with so much love, joy, and gratitude from all of the lessons I’ve learned.
1. 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡. It’s absolutely necessary in order to be able to show up for yourself and others in your life. Becoming a new mom definitely helped me see the importance of taking care of myself first. You can’t give from an empty cup.
2. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲. What you believe becomes your reality. (Read that again!) Over the past year, I’ve been able to overcome limiting beliefs I didn’t even know I had until I took the time to challenge them. I used to believe that my life was busy and overwhelming and so it was. When I made the shift to believe that my life was easy, filled with love and joy…guess what? It was/is. (It really can be this simple.) Those that have done this work know it can be challenging but is necessary if you want to level up.
3. 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐲 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. I can ask for help and support. And it doesn’t mean I’m weak or incapable. In fact, it demonstrates humility and strength. Life is so much easier when you’re not trying to do it alone.
4. 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐤𝐞𝐲. Earlier this year, I challenged myself to practice gratitude for 30 consecutive days. I’d open up my journal and write down 10 things I was grateful for at the beginning of my day. I’ve kept up the practice and it has done wonders for my mindset, my attitude, and overall health. Whenever I was struggling, turning to gratitude always brought me back to center.
5. 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡. I spent so much time in a constant cycle of overwhelm frankly because I was always doing too much and never felt like I was doing enough. By practicing the art of “doing less” (80/20 rule)—focusing on the things that are working for me and letting go of anything that’s not, I’ve learned how to reset myself quickly if things start to feel out of balance.
6. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐣𝐨𝐛 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬. Other people’s opinions of me are not my business. So much freedom in this!
7. 𝐒𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭! As a new parent, I’ve never been more grateful for sleep (when I could get it) than I have this year. Also, the scientist in me is fascinated with brain health and the role sleep plays in it. There is evidence that sleep affects your learning, weight, and of course, your mood! Like self-care, sleep shouldn’t be seen as a luxury but as a necessity.
8. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰. If you’re not doing things that scare you, you’re probably not growing. I’m so proud of myself for getting out of my comfort zone, putting myself out there, and trying out new things. I’d rather fail a thousand times by taking action than do nothing because I let fear stop me.
9. 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐦𝐞 𝐮𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐦𝐞 𝐣𝐨𝐲. 𝐌𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. Ok, not a new lesson but I figure it's worth sharing because it’s made such an impact on my health and boosting my confidence over the past couple of years.
10. 𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞. Whether we want to admit it or not, we choose how we spend our time. I’ve learned that if I feel out of balance or stressed, it’s because I’m not spending my time in alignment with my priorities and values. This year has been all about defining what those are for me and being intentional with spending my time in alignment with them. As a result, I found my flow, balance, and a sense of fulfillment!
11. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧. As someone that likes to move fast and go, go, go...Alexandra has taught me how important it is to slow down and live in the present. Slowing down reminded me that there is no race…there is only where I am and to enjoy the journey on my way to where I want to go.
12. 𝐌𝐲 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐈 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥-𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠. Again, not a big surprise but as I decluttered and simplified our home (and life), I began to feel lighter and less stressed. Additionally, who you spend the most time with shapes who you are. Make sure you spend time with people that support, encourage, and inspire you and not the opposite!
That was a lot, I know! Needless to say, I can’t wait to see what 2020 will bring.
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝟐𝟎𝟏𝟗?